Brené Brown: The price of invulnerability

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  • “equally fatalistic answers yet more creative”
  • “on the verge of bliss and picturing something horrible happening”
  • The fatalistic response if not universal
    • Is a symptom of the universal
    • We are losing our tolerance for vulnerability
  • “Vulnerability is absolutely at the core of fear and anxiety and shame and very difficult emotions that we also experience”
  • “Vulnerability is also the birthplace of joy, of love, of belonging, of creativity, of faith”
  • “Perfection is a tool to protect ourselves”
  • “Faith – vulnerability = extremism”
  • “Spirituality is inherently vulnerable”
  • “We live in a culture that tells us at there is never enough (goodness)”
  • “We are not extraordinary enough”
  • “Somehow an ordinary life has become synonymous with a meaningless life”
  • “In our ordinary life in ordinary moments is where we can find the most joy”
  • Numbing society
    • Most addicted, medicated, obese, in-debt, adult cohort, busy society
  • “We stay so busy that the truth of our lives can’t catch up”
  • “You cannot selective numb emotion”
    • Numb pain, numb joy
  • How to recover
    • Practice gratitude
    • Stop and be thankful for what we have
    • Honor what is ordinary about our lives
    • The people we love
    • Play, community, nature (honor what is ordinary)
  • If don’t experience those good things, our reservoirs will be empty when the bad things happen

Brené Brown on Joy: It's Terrifying

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  • Joy requires gratitude
  • Joy is the most terrifying thing that humans experience
  • “When we lose our tolerance for vulnerability, joy becomes forboding”
    • “We try to beat vulnerability to the punch”
  • “I know because I’m fixing to meet Oprah, I’m going to die” lolol
  • “We’re trying to dress rehearse tragedy so we can beat vulnerability to the punch”
  • When happy people feel that, they practice gratitude to defeat that fear
  • “In a culture of scarcity, we are always searching for extraordinary when the truth is” (that we truly love the ordinary sweet things about our life)