It is the most important variable in personal growth.
The vocabularies of scarcity and rage are the only ones available to those who are numb. They create a vicious circle serving only to further numb them and keep anyone who could help them far away. The solution is to take a breath and give them room to be safe, and then tell them about taking just one breath, too, to get a respite from the pain. It only takes one!
You are not who you think you are. The mind tends to go to extremes. In the process it drags you through all of the junk that it finds to keep itself entertained. Imagine what a three year old would do given the chance to operate a bulldozer in the living room of your mind. It is something like that. Of course, when it is pleasant, we love it. When it is painful, that is when it starts to hurt. You know it will never end well.
Better help that kid grow up and be a good friend instead of a trouble maker, right?
Only then can you start to discover who you really are.
“I look forward to spending time with my friends so that we can catch up and tell each other how horrible
- We are
- Our family is
- Our friends are
- Our co-workers are
- Our employer is
- Our nation is
- Is the entire race of human beings“
… SAID NO ONE EVER
Take a five breaths and hear them out. Maybe that is what they want to say; maybe not. Ask them to tell you more. Reply “Gotcha…and…?”; sometimes it works wonders. “Gotcha… you are a horrible person and are we still going to the concert this Friday?”. “And” turns the topics from a roadblock into a speed bump; you can still go somewhere with it. Better to move forward then sit in the muck of bad ideas that probably aren’t even true.
Beneath the pain you will find resolution. It is astounding.
Shockingly, you might not find a reason or explanation for that pain, and, that it might be fine without one.
You got a friend who is angry all time?
You ever ask them why and they never have an answer or if they do it makes no sense?
I’ve got an answer for you on their behalf:
- It is the only option they’ve got
- They can’t see what it is
- If they could, they would tell you that they don’t like it, either
Your happiness is easily in your control by making your mind your best friend.
Create an environment where your mind can thrive instead of making it your worst enemy who knows every trick to get you caught up with its junk.
What you eat creates the environment for your own freedom or slavery; you are your own creator of your joy and your misery.
Happy brain; happy owner.
“Intentions” are a popular new age idea. Is the new age over?
Intentions mean being present in the moment and sensing, or, not being numb.
Imagine being there in that one moment, good or bad, experiencing it, and moving on. Doesn’t that sound great?
Doing anything might result in pain, but it is worth it because numbing isn’t the same as not-hurting. Numbing means feeling nothing; bad or good.
When you can’t feel the repercussions of how far you are going; it is easy to over-do it.