The Anatomy of Trust by Brene Brown

  • Brene Brown on Super Soul Sunday
  • Reliability
    • be aware of your limitations, don’t over promise.
  • Accountability
  • Vault
    • holding the confidences of others
  • Integrity
    • choosing courage over comfort, choosing what’s right over what’s fast fun or easy, practicing your values, not just professing them.
  • Non-judgment
    • when we assign value positively to when we or others need help
  • Generosity
    • take whatever words I say in the most positive kind accepting manner. Learn to make generous positive assumptions about what others say or believe.
  • Common Enemy to Intimacy
    • sharing negative gossip about others.
  • Self-trust
    • Can you count on yourself?
  • “Follow your curiosity
    • This is much easier than following your passion.
  • Curiosity is always gentle and available.“ – Elizabeth Gilbert

The Ultimate Meditation Hack

A lot of us meditators feel like we can’t get our feet off the ground when it comes to our meditative practice. Typically it goes something like this:

  • Meditate thirty minutes per day
  • For seven days
  • Then, never meditate again for six months
  • Finally, the beginning and try again

Actually, that is fine because practice is practice. There is an easier way though that I call the ultimate meditation hack.

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Miracles Without Expiration Dates

Do you have a story about a miracle that you personally experienced? A lot of us do. Even if you don’t, you might have a friend or family member close to you that shared their story. The surprising thing about everyone’s experience here though is that the experience itself is easily forgotten!

It is a surprising attribute. Miracles are supposed to change your life for the better. They are supposed to inspire you to change your lives, and the lives of others for the better. They are supposed to be deeply meaningful, but in the end… they are not. In fact, they might not even be memorable. There is some comfort here though, and that comfort resides inside you.

Everyone human contains a unique property in this world: there is no one like them and they are here for a reason. That is miraculous. That miracle is inside of them and it is always with them. That miracle is untarnishable and it has an even more important property:

That miracle inside of you hasn’t got an expiration date. You will never forget about it. To simply be who you are in this world is to share it. There isn’t anything that you need to tell anyone about it.

You are your own miracle without an expiration date. It is the sole reason for your having taken birth as a human. Your job is to figure out that reason and start living it as quickly as possible.

Tonights Notes

  • The conscience never needs validation
    • Seems is always unified, soothing, and practical.
  • The mind usually makes you nervous
    • You’re not really sure if it is the right thing to do
  • You actually are a good person
    • It isn’t a trick
    • It will always be that way no matter what
    • The soul and conscience are never tarnished.
  • Where you should direct all your energy to make the world a better place
    • Is where you should be
  • Learn how to love all and exclude none
  • That which creates sustainibility is good

Men, Trauma, Rage And A Path To Wholeness

Trauma has two parts. The first part is created when you experience events that exceed your emotional capacity.

You can be one month old and accrue trauma when you don’t get fed in time. It is true; that does fit the definition. You can accrue trauma when you are one year old and you don’t get to eat that entire chocolate bar despite your biggest wails. This isn’t to diminish trauma survivors experience, rather it is a place to start making sense of the mechanics of trauma. As we grow older the opportunities for trauma typically grow in diversity. All of those events result in the same aftermath; retaining the event within our nervous system.

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